I appreciate your thoughts and i'm pondering and praying.
I stuck with my marraige. For years. My sexual preferences have been "vanilla" and there are a lot of misconceptions about BDSM. Sure, there are people that abuse the dynamics of a Dominant/submissive but within a loving relationship it is the most respectful, consensual, loving relationship i have had. I'm not talking about offering myself to just anyone, or several people. I'm talking about a commited, loving relationship with the man i am going to marry, should have married.
Legally my husband and i are seperated, on the road to divorce.
How does this marry with my faith? I am, and can be, totally honest about who i am both here and in the bdsm community.
Bdsm isn't something i have rushed into. Everything i do is thought about, safe, consensual.
Bdsm has helped me accept so much about myself. Tbh, i'm not convined that bdsm in itself is sinful. It encourages communication. Trust is essential.
Is it the act that's sinful? If i do this with my significant other is it sinful?
Yes, God led me here. For answers, for guidance, for support. He also led me to Bdsm. Now, it may be that there were just, or are, a few lessons for me within bdsm or maybe it's something that will be part of my life. I don't know.
Faith is a knowledge within the heart, beyond the reach of proof - Kahlil Gibran