You know you love someone because you are choosing to love them e.g your actions show love. And you may feel love too.Kenny wrote:Kenny wrote:Kenny wrote:Can’t say how things work for you, but for me I don’t love my loved ones one minute, hate them the next, then go back to loving them later; it doesn't work for me that way. I may be angry at them one moment then happy the next, but when I am angry, I don’t hate them I still love them thus their value to me remains the same. How about you? Do you only love and value others because God instructs you to? Or are you capable of finding value in others on your own?Nessa wrote:So If I strongly dislike my kid today, then their value to me temporarily decreases?Kenny wrote: Their value only temporarily decrease with me. Their value in the eyes of everyone else remains the same.
KenAre you confusing the feeling of love for someone with the feeling of happiness with them, and the feeling of hatred towards someone with being angry at them?Nessa wrote: We are talking about feelings alone. No one can have feelings of love constantly for another all the time, in my opinion. We are human and humans always fall short. Not all the time though and some more than others.
So is it fair to say the only reason you value and love some people is because God tells you to?Nessa wrote: I can find value in people on my own but it's subjective and like basing an opinion on shifting sands depending on how I feel that day. WHY do you think the divorce rate is so high? Sometimes because people fall out of love and don't necessarily care to find their way backFeelings aren't based on whims; at least for me they are not.Nessa wrote: Ultimately love is a choice I make. Which is grounded on substance and not just whimsI've never heard of love described as a knowledge. Please explain.Nessa wrote: Are you confusing the knowledge of love as being the same as a feeling?
Knowledge is understanding you are loving them through choice regardless of how you necessarily feel.
Feelings are feelings. I am not saying they aren't meaningful. But I am also not saying they are necessarily a good way to know the truth. Our feelings are always subjective in my opinion.