Domestic Abuse

Are you a sincere seeker who has questions about Christianity, or a Christian with doubts about your faith? Post them here to receive a thoughtful response.
Post Reply
User avatar
UsagiTsukino
Valued Member
Posts: 259
Joined: Tue Mar 05, 2013 7:10 am
Christian: Yes
Sex: Female
Creation Position: Theistic Evolution
Has liked: 0
Been liked: 6 times

Domestic Abuse

#1

Post by UsagiTsukino » Wed Aug 01, 2018 3:39 pm

I can't understand how some Christians think it's okay for domestic abuse victims to stay with their abusers. I do believe people can change but shouldn't people being abused leave for safety? I mean is divorce really a sin if a person is abused

User avatar
B. W.
Board Moderator
Posts: 8315
Joined: Fri Nov 04, 2005 8:17 am
Christian: Yes
Location: Colorado
Has liked: 102 times
Been liked: 254 times

Re: Domestic Abuse

#2

Post by B. W. » Wed Aug 01, 2018 5:29 pm

UsagiTsukino wrote:
Wed Aug 01, 2018 3:39 pm
I can't understand how some Christians think it's okay for domestic abuse victims to stay with their abusers. I do believe people can change but shouldn't people being abused leave for safety? I mean is divorce really a sin if a person is abused
I do not know of any who say it is okay to stay - haven't heard of anyone saying it either.

Probably a few folks that do are out there so please let's not accuse every Christian of approving...

Blessings
-
-
-
Science is man's invention - creation is God's
(by B. W. Melvin)

Old Polish Proverb:
Not my Circus....not my monkeys

PaulSacramento
Board Moderator
Posts: 8455
Joined: Fri Mar 25, 2011 12:29 pm
Christian: Yes
Sex: Male
Creation Position: Theistic Evolution
Location: Ontario, Canada
Has liked: 101 times
Been liked: 302 times

Re: Domestic Abuse

#3

Post by PaulSacramento » Thu Aug 02, 2018 6:57 am

So here is the thing.
Many view the comment by Jesus that divorce is only permissible due to adultery as some statement that ONLY when a spouse cheats on another can they be divorced in the eyes of God.
So, even abuse would not justify divorce.

The issue is how adultery is used in the bible and it is NOT just about PHYSICAL cheating by spiritual cheating as well and that means that, when a spouse BETRAYS their spouse in a physical OR spiritual way, that is adultery AND that extend to physical abuse since that is a betrayal of the trust and commitment made between spouses, under God.

User avatar
Kurieuo
Technical Admin
Posts: 9695
Joined: Thu Aug 05, 2004 6:25 am
Christian: Yes
Sex: Male
Creation Position: Progressive Creationist
Location: Qld, Australia
Has liked: 593 times
Been liked: 615 times

Re: Domestic Abuse

#4

Post by Kurieuo » Mon Aug 06, 2018 7:31 am

UsagiTsukino wrote:
Wed Aug 01, 2018 3:39 pm
I can't understand how some Christians think it's okay for domestic abuse victims to stay with their abusers. I do believe people can change but shouldn't people being abused leave for safety? I mean is divorce really a sin if a person is abused
I'll just say I'm Christian and think it is okay. Not just okay, but domestic violence is a good thing! So soo great... I'm always wondering where your unsupported and baseless statements come from, so just thought I'd lend you a hand.
"Whoever will call on the name of the Lord will be saved." (Romans 10:13)

___________________

Image

User avatar
Nicki
Senior Member
Posts: 585
Joined: Thu Sep 04, 2014 8:36 am
Christian: Yes
Sex: Female
Creation Position: Undecided
Location: Western Australia
Has liked: 296 times
Been liked: 60 times

Re: Domestic Abuse

#5

Post by Nicki » Wed Aug 08, 2018 6:05 am

I was going to start a new thread but might as well post this here. Where do you think the stereotype comes from about wives being the moody, bossy ones in relationships? Is it a sexual thing where the man doesn't want to be in the doghouse and miss out on marital activities? Or is it something more sinister, in that since men are usually physically stronger it could be dangerous if they were the moody and overbearing ones? Of course this last one only gives a reason for the stereotype, not for the actual behaviour. I don't know how true-to-life said stereotype is in general, just that people often joke about it.

User avatar
RickD
Board Moderator
Posts: 20000
Joined: Thu Jan 14, 2010 7:59 am
Christian: Yes
Sex: Male
Creation Position: Day-Age
Location: Kamino
Has liked: 174 times
Been liked: 971 times

Re: Domestic Abuse

#6

Post by RickD » Wed Aug 08, 2018 6:31 am

Nicki wrote:
Where do you think the stereotype comes from about wives being the moody, bossy ones in relationships?
From Melanie?

:pound: :pound: :pound: :pound:
These users liked this post by RickD:
Nicki (Wed Aug 08, 2018 10:27 pm)
1 Corinthians 1:9
9 God is faithful, through whom you were called into fellowship with His Son, Jesus Christ our Lord.

Audie wrote:
"Christianity is not a joke, but it has some very poor representatives."


St. Richard the Sarcastic--The Patron Saint of Irony

Philip
Board Moderator
Posts: 7014
Joined: Mon Dec 28, 2009 7:45 pm
Christian: Yes
Sex: Male
Creation Position: Day-Age
Location: Betwixt the Sea and the Mountains
Has liked: 297 times
Been liked: 544 times

Re: Domestic Abuse

#7

Post by Philip » Wed Aug 08, 2018 9:57 am

Tell the truth, Rick - somehow she's met your wife!

User avatar
RickD
Board Moderator
Posts: 20000
Joined: Thu Jan 14, 2010 7:59 am
Christian: Yes
Sex: Male
Creation Position: Day-Age
Location: Kamino
Has liked: 174 times
Been liked: 971 times

Re: Domestic Abuse

#8

Post by RickD » Wed Aug 08, 2018 11:13 am

Philip wrote:
Wed Aug 08, 2018 9:57 am
Tell the truth, Rick - somehow she's met your wife!
My wife knows her place is in the kitchen.

She's a good wife. She does what she's told.
1 Corinthians 1:9
9 God is faithful, through whom you were called into fellowship with His Son, Jesus Christ our Lord.

Audie wrote:
"Christianity is not a joke, but it has some very poor representatives."


St. Richard the Sarcastic--The Patron Saint of Irony

Post Reply