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Post by Dallas » Sun Jan 15, 2012 12:23 pm

This is a little trouble that i'm having that is ultimately making me sad. Like the title suggests I need someone close to me. The problem is i'm a little queer (used in it's proper context). The fact is there is no one at Church or at my school who's quite like me. For a few refrences of what I'm like i'll give you some.

1. I play a lot of video games (competitvely :P)
2. I love to learn things
3. I'm very shy before getting comfortable with someone (hoping to fix this)
4. I have a tik/twitch because of #1
5. I'm told i'm smart, but I don't see that.

There's more, but I don't know :P

The problem that i'm having is seeing people around my at Church and at school, that have friends for their whole lives. Yet, every friend that i'm going to or will have usually the friendship last's just a few years and the friendship isn't that strong to begin with. I don't know what's wrong :(

Now when it comes to relationships with a Female. That's never happened :P I've been praying to God that he prepares a table for the Girl he want's me to be with according to his will. Hopefully God's will be accomplished through this.

If there's anything that I missed or didn't explain well enough i'm sorry.

Thanks for reading, it means a lot to me

edit* Queer means odd not anything else. Sorry for misconseption.
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Post by Gman » Sun Jan 15, 2012 1:28 pm

Dallas wrote:This is a little trouble that i'm having that is ultimately making me sad. Like the title suggests I need someone close to me. The problem is i'm a little queer (used in it's proper context). The fact is there is no one at Church or at my school who's quite like me. For a few refrences of what I'm like i'll give you some.
Greetings..

I would say that it would be important for you to abstain from sin which it's ultimate destiny is to not only destroy you but also your relationship with your loved ones and your relationship with G-d. Many people people fall into sexual sin whether it is homosexuality, adultery, pornography, and the likes. It's a very powerful deception. I pray that you find a wife... However, if you continue down the sin path, I doubt if she will be able to help you I'm afraid.
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Post by Dallas » Sun Jan 15, 2012 2:15 pm

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Dallas wrote:This is a little trouble that i'm having that is ultimately making me sad. Like the title suggests I need someone close to me. The problem is i'm a little queer (used in it's proper context). The fact is there is no one at Church or at my school who's quite like me. For a few refrences of what I'm like i'll give you some.
Greetings..

I would say that it would be important for you to abstain from sin which it's ultimate destiny is to not only destroy you but also your relationship with your loved ones and your relationship with G-d. Many people people fall into sexual sin whether it is homosexuality, adultery, pornography, and the likes. It's a very powerful deception. I pray that you find a wife... However, if you continue down the sin path, I doubt if she will be able to help you I'm afraid.
I don't do anything sexual promise. I prevent myself from masturbation,pornography,etc... By the word queer I meant odd not the homosexual queer, sorry if that came out different. the problem that i'm having is people don't understand me, and I don't think anyone will, except God. I pray that he'll help me, but who knows what his plan is other than himself. I'm more or less just lonely.
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Post by Gman » Sun Jan 15, 2012 2:18 pm

Dallas wrote:
I don't do anything sexual promise. I prevent myself from masturbation,pornography,etc... By the word queer I meant odd not the homosexual queer, sorry if that came out different. the problem that i'm having is people don't understand me, and I don't think anyone will, except God. I pray that he'll help me, but who knows what his plan is other than himself. I'm more or less just lonely.
Oops.. Sorry Dallas.. :oops:

You feel alone?

Want a mission?
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Post by Dallas » Sun Jan 15, 2012 2:22 pm

Gman wrote:
Oops.. Sorry Dallas.. :oops:

You feel alone?

Want a mission?
Oh. your fine :P I tell people I come off queer all the time and it confuses them. By mission what do you mean?
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Post by Reactionary » Sun Jan 15, 2012 2:24 pm

Dallas,

Your profile info says that you're 17. It wasn't long ago when I was that age as well. Problems that you describe are not uncommon among late teens, especially in these times. Young people are under pressure - there is always this invisible standard, invented by the consumerist/hedonist society, that you allegedly have to satisfy. There is the age when you're supposed to get drunk for the first time, smoke your first cigarette, have your first kiss, first sex, first relationship, etc. Otherwise you're considered a weirdo by the "society", but the very people who may mock you for being such, are only doing so in order to hide their own insecurities. There is a considerable number of people, like you, or me, or anyone else who may recognize him/herself in a similar situation, who just don't function that way - which is good, because this standard of superficiality and "live-every-day-as-if-it's-the-last-one" mentality, isn't right. Now the main thing here is, that you have to build your self-confidence. You need it to outgrow any standards or prejudices made by the society (as those change every once in a while) and focus on the eternal Standard, provided by God. The truth never grows old, and if you live it proudly and consistently, believe it, people will appreciate you for it.

OK, I digressed a bit. About friendship... don't believe everything you see. Things may seem ideal on the first sight, but I assure you that many "friendships" are no stronger than those you've developed. I used to ask myself the same thing, I wondered why I could feel a certain distance between me and the people I've communicated with, and then I observed interpersonal relationships between others, and found that it isn't much different between them either. People are afraid to open up, because they fear you may find out that they don't satisfy the "standards" I've mentioned above. At least that's my view on the situation.

Regarding girls... You're only 17, it's too early to expect anything serious IMO, there are couples who make it at that age, but such are rare. I understand your loneliness, I'm single too and I sometimes feel lonely as well. Do things that you enjoy, find a new hobby, meet new people, just keep yourself busy. Don't spend too much time alone with your thoughts, because they may drag you down if you do so. Another positive of being active is, that you may find a new (girl)friend... ;)

I hope I've helped. If you need anymore advice, send me a PM and I'll do my best to find time for you. Good luck. :)
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Post by Gman » Sun Jan 15, 2012 2:27 pm

Dallas wrote:
Oh. your fine :P I tell people I come off queer all the time and it confuses them.
Yes.. When you say that it brings up many ideas..
Dallas wrote: By mission what do you mean?
The restoration of the house of Israel. It's what I do in my spare time. ;)
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Post by Dallas » Sun Jan 15, 2012 2:30 pm

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I hope I've helped. If you need anymore advice, send me a PM and I'll do my best to find time for you. Good luck. :)
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Thanks, It means a lot to me that you read and replied. I might send you a pm to talk, because most of the people I know don't have the same mentality as me.
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Post by Dallas » Sun Jan 15, 2012 2:32 pm

Gman wrote:
Dallas wrote:
Oh. your fine :P I tell people I come off queer all the time and it confuses them.
Yes.. When you say that it brings up many ideas..
Dallas wrote: By mission what do you mean?
The restoration of the house of Israel. It's what I do in my spare time. ;)
That sounds SOOO familiar can you refresh my memory please? :P
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Post by Gman » Sun Jan 15, 2012 2:45 pm

Dallas wrote:
That sounds SOOO familiar can you refresh my memory please? :P
The restoration of Israel starting in Jerusalem. Bringing all things captive to it's restoration and fulfillment under Yeshua (Jesus) the messiah. Christians and Jews coming together to worship Him starting in Jerusalem which will then spread to the rest of the world.

Believe it's better and BIGGER than any video game you will ever play... You will be playing with reality itself.

The Jews fight will become your fight however too... Unfortunately.
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Post by Rob » Sun Jan 15, 2012 2:56 pm

Gman wrote:
Dallas wrote:
That sounds SOOO familiar can you refresh my memory please? :P
The restoration of Israel starting in Jerusalem. Bringing all things captive to it's restoration and fulfillment under Yeshua (Jesus) the messiah. Christians and Jews coming together to worship Him starting in Jerusalem which will then spread to the rest of the world.

Believe it's better and BIGGER than any video game you will ever play... You will be playing with reality itself.

The Jews fight will become your fight however too... Unfortunately.
I don't know, man... Skyrim is pretty cool. ;)

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Post by Gman » Sun Jan 15, 2012 3:07 pm

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I don't know, man... Skyrim is pretty cool. ;)
Yes.. Or you can stay and play in Babylon too... The choice is yours.

But don't blame me if it doesn't work out right. ;)
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Post by Dallas » Sun Jan 15, 2012 3:11 pm

A major problem that i'm having is talking to people more towards female's. I'm not sure if that's common but who knows. I promised God that I won't mix Yoke for any means. Yet, all the females that I like are either A) different yoke. B) Taken. or C) They don't like me. :( Awww well... God's plan for me is much better than my plan for me. That's all that matters.
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Post by Gman » Sun Jan 15, 2012 3:20 pm

Dallas wrote:A major problem that i'm having is talking to people more towards female's. I'm not sure if that's common but who knows. I promised God that I won't mix Yoke for any means. Yet, all the females that I like are either A) different yoke. B) Taken. or C) They don't like me. :( Awww well... God's plan for me is much better than my plan for me. That's all that matters.
I don't know that for you Dallas.. Perhaps G-d wants a family for you too. And a wife...

Don't let my rhetoric sway you.. :P
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Post by Dallas » Sun Jan 15, 2012 3:23 pm

Gman wrote:
I don't know that for you Dallas.. Perhaps G-d wants a family for you too. And a wife...

Don't let my rhetoric sway you.. :P

Just perhaps :P
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