BDSM in the marriage bed

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thatkidakayoungguy wrote:
Storyteller wrote:
thatkidakayoungguy wrote:Wow. I had these BDSM feelings (spanking, dominatrix) starting about 9 or so! Didn't get much into it till about 13 or so, and even then it wasn't much until high school hit and I got the internet.
I was a late starter :mrgreen:

On a serious note, do you have any idea why you feel you want this?
Are you just curious? Do you feel you need to be punished, or corrected in some way? Why do you feel the need to be dominated? Is it just kinda like a sideline or do you need it, depend on it?

For me, I find it harder to deal with tenderness than "abuse." Whip me and I'll love you, kiss me and I'll crumble.
Not entirely sure, but as I said somewhere in this thread, it kinda comes from a rough past. But not entirely.
y>:D<
Now that I understand.

You recognise your need, or want, for it. Know where it comes from. You're exploring it, and how you feel about it and you're seeking guidance. That's all good.
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Storyteller wrote: At 21 met an older man in his forties
damn ... lucky bastard ..
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Blessed wrote:
Storyteller wrote: At 21 met an older man in his forties
damn ... lucky bastard ..
:lol:
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Blessed wrote:
Storyteller wrote: At 21 met an older man in his forties
damn ... lucky bastard ..
And I thought my jokes were inappropriate!

:shock:
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RickD wrote:
Blessed wrote:
Storyteller wrote: At 21 met an older man in his forties
damn ... lucky bastard ..
And I thought my jokes were inappropriate!

:shock:
I don't think he was joking. ;)
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This topic is not going to help me forget the new shades of grey movie coming up :econfused:

Watching a tv series on netflix 'the fall' got the guy from shades and the girl from xfiles...guy is into bdsm but also strangles and kills his victims.... so that probably is a sin...
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Kurieuo wrote: I don't think he was joking. ;)
Oh yes. I was just kidding. Wink. Wink. :ewink:

Anyways . BDSM is not love. It's getting off from wickedness.
Perversions. The problem with people who get off from all
Forms of deviancy ... is they need to keep pushing the envelope ... to get the same rise out of themselves or others. It's like Herion. You have to
Keep upping the ante to get the same effect. And where does that kind of thing end ..

Speaking of 21 year olds. There was a beautiful blonde girl named Jamie I went to school
With. Once upon a time,
I could've ... well there is no point in discussing it but she entered that "BDSM" lifestyle as a "sub" when she was 21. Started going to fetish factory parties as a "sub" ...
throwing her pearls to pigs.

She got cancer ... so now she's in church cramming for the final ...

I just heard about this recently ... and it got me thinking of people who turn to God only when mortal criseses hit them ... I.e. running to God to save you at the end of a life
Lived in sin ... just cause you know your numbers coming up soon ... I wonder what that is worth ...
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Well, anything can turn into a perversion. And I wouldnt necessarily say bdsm is wrong.
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Nessa wrote:Well, anything can turn into a perversion. And I wouldnt necessarily say bdsm is wrong.
It's tame compared to 50 shades of grey, right? :P
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Nessa wrote:Well, anything can turn into a perversion. And I wouldnt necessarily say bdsm is wrong.
Says the lady with the creepy pedo clown for an avatar picture.
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If BDSM is not wrong it means that BDSM is right.
Which means that:
Dominating another for sexual gratification is right.
Being humiliated and dominated for sexual pleasure is right.
Inflicting pain on another for sexual pleasure is right.
Feeling sexual pleasure from the infliction of pain is right.
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If such makes you happy though, then how can it be wrong? :twisted:
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Kurieuo wrote:If such makes you happy though, then how can it be wrong? :twisted:
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Nessa wrote:Well, anything can turn into a perversion. And I wouldnt necessarily say bdsm is wrong.
I suppose if you include say a mild slap on the bum, as BDSM, then no. But, otherwise, then yes it's wrong.
Am I correct?
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Kurieuo wrote:If such makes you happy though, then how can it be wrong? :twisted:
We can apply that to ANY sin.
Don't usually we sin bc it feels good?
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