Yes, tricky ricky...Philip wrote:Nessa, you should know better that to ever attempt having a serious conversation with Rick, concerning certain topics: Women, samwiches, faith healers, liberals, etc.
In secular society, women often don't feel as confident in being expressively sexual, because they get labeled as being loose, or sluts, etc. Yet, society doesn't look down on sexually "progressive" men in the same way, or as much. HUGE hypocrisy and double standards over sinful behaviors outside of marriage. Of course, publicly NO one should be sexually open - that's for behind closed doors, and God said it's for marriage ONLY. People are individuals - some more in touch with their sexual side than others. God invented sex! He DESIGNED us for sex. He says sex is GOOD, IMPORTANT, and should not be denied one's spouse. Song of Solomon, so much of it, is about understanding and reveling in the physical side of love. Our God-given sexuality is meant to give us a sense of wonder, excitement, physical pleasure, and more. In it's rightful place, privately, we should all try our best to rock our spouse's world. We should ALL think sexually - ALL of the time. There is nothing worse than a Christian spouse who is a prude in the bedroom. Of course, a good sexual marriage starts outside of the bedroom, relationally, how we think about pursuing our spouse sexually, as well as also serving them in other ways. Christians should all be the most creative lovers of all people - always looking to make that side of our lives more and more exciting, interesting and satisfying. Sadly, many Christians don't understand this. They have all manner of hangups. And many fail to adequately discuss their sexual expectations with their future spouse before marriage. So many (men and women) become gatekeepers and cold fish, they neglect their sex lives to their own detriment and happiness, and that of their spouses.
Um, my wife needs me right now, gotta go!
Phil, I know you posted with the best of intentions but as someone who has in the past fallen under some of your criticisms from the above, I suggest being careful when speaking in broad terms. Alot of people out there have hang ups and alot of condemnation can bring unnecessary shame.
It's all very well to say a Christian should be like this or that..
But compassion and empathy need to be had too, before we judge why someone is how they are or have been in the past.