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by Nicki
Mon Oct 21, 2019 7:06 am
Forum: Christian Chit-chat
Topic: Rejection :(
Replies: 70
Views: 41540

Re: Rejection :(

Thanks, Rick and Annette - that's the risk I take posting on an open forum though. Some things have to be taken with a grain of salt. Anyway, things were no better today :( I'm feeling as if I haven't got very far in life, when I'm getting all upset again over the way someone's treating me at work o...
by Nicki
Sun Oct 20, 2019 7:31 am
Forum: Christian Chit-chat
Topic: Rejection :(
Replies: 70
Views: 41540

Re: Rejection :(

I think you need to make sure you are being totally honest with yourself about wanting to be just friends. Logically that may be true due to being married but emotionally it may not be true at all. He seems to really affect you and if he did return the warmness you have given, then I would see it a...
by Nicki
Sun Oct 20, 2019 6:58 am
Forum: Christian Chit-chat
Topic: Rejection :(
Replies: 70
Views: 41540

Re: Rejection :(

I think you need to make sure you are being totally honest with yourself about wanting to be just friends. Logically that may be true due to being married but emotionally it may not be true at all. He seems to really affect you and if he did return the warmness you have given, then I would see it a...
by Nicki
Mon Oct 14, 2019 5:24 am
Forum: Christian Chit-chat
Topic: Rejection :(
Replies: 70
Views: 41540

Re: Rejection :(

Nicki.. I'll pray for you, I've been in a very similar situation to you. I was desperate to leave but couldn't. My daughter, my faith, my stubbornness. I had an affair. I did so, so many things I shouldn't have done. I knew it wasn't if I'd leave but when. I prayed... Now, although how it happened ...
by Nicki
Sun Oct 13, 2019 6:47 am
Forum: Christian Chit-chat
Topic: Rejection :(
Replies: 70
Views: 41540

Re: Rejection :(

I'm guessing you've suggested or tried Christian counselling? If not, that'd be a good first step. Otherwise, why not make a statement and leave to family and/or friends? Leave the kids for now, work that out later. Doing this is giving it a chance for your feelings that you're "done" to ...
by Nicki
Sat Oct 12, 2019 6:03 pm
Forum: Christian Chit-chat
Topic: Rejection :(
Replies: 70
Views: 41540

Re: Rejection :(

People are dense. Don't expect him to know anything about how far gone you're feeling. My own wife didn't until the day I went to leave. She picked up her socks, and we've been together seven or something years since. I've also learnt much about myself deciding to stay with her. Things aren't perfe...
by Nicki
Thu Oct 10, 2019 7:36 pm
Forum: Christian Chit-chat
Topic: Rejection :(
Replies: 70
Views: 41540

Re: Rejection :(

Nicki: I'm not sure how I can let Jesus fill gaps for me - or do you mean he's already filled the gaps I actually need filled? I'd like to think so in a way because I find it pretty hard to experience the reality of a relationship with God when other humans are much easier to see, hear and so on. W...
by Nicki
Thu Sep 26, 2019 8:29 am
Forum: Christian Chit-chat
Topic: Rejection :(
Replies: 70
Views: 41540

Re: Rejection :(

Nicki, can't believe you told everyone here about what I did! :evil: Hmm. If only... :P I no longer seem to get the attention I use to get. So I'd welcome your attention Nicki. I'll be your friend! You just need to move from WA to Queensland. Over there, they're just wierd. Think that's probably yo...
by Nicki
Thu Sep 26, 2019 3:11 am
Forum: Christian Chit-chat
Topic: Rejection :(
Replies: 70
Views: 41540

Re: Rejection :(

I stayed in my marraige for years, desperately wishing i was somewhere else, anywhere else. I would spend hours walking, just to avoid going home. I stayed because it was, despite everything, the right thing to do. When we split (the decision was kinda forced as a result of things that happened) it...
by Nicki
Thu Sep 26, 2019 2:59 am
Forum: Christian Chit-chat
Topic: Rejection :(
Replies: 70
Views: 41540

Re: Rejection :(

Nicki, can't believe you told everyone here about what I did! :evil: Hmm. If only... :P I no longer seem to get the attention I use to get. So I'd welcome your attention Nicki. I'll be your friend! You just need to move from WA to Queensland. Over there, they're just wierd. Think that's probably yo...
by Nicki
Tue Sep 24, 2019 6:16 am
Forum: Christian Chit-chat
Topic: Rejection :(
Replies: 70
Views: 41540

Re: Rejection :(

Nicki, the key to your husband's heart is through Christ - he won't know how or why to love until He knows the love of Jesus! Show him love, even when he doesn't deserve it. And you will have to depend upon God to do that. And are you in a good church with mature Christians - particularly one that ...
by Nicki
Tue Sep 24, 2019 5:53 am
Forum: Christian Chit-chat
Topic: Rejection :(
Replies: 70
Views: 41540

Re: Rejection :(

I feel like you could be playing with fire. And I put no confidence in the flesh. Like saying 'I know I'm on a diet so it's ok the chocolate is in the kitchen. I can keep seeing it, and touch it, even smell it...' Next thing you know, there's an empty wrapper. Either get rid of the chocolate best y...
by Nicki
Mon Sep 23, 2019 8:05 pm
Forum: Christian Chit-chat
Topic: Rejection :(
Replies: 70
Views: 41540

Re: Rejection :(

I feel like I am missing something? Did he make a pass at you? And how was the way you were acting annoying to him? And do you feel like he didn't want to be more than friends and felt rejected? Even though you couldn't act upon it? Marriage can be extremely difficult but I pray you guys will find ...
by Nicki
Mon Sep 23, 2019 7:31 pm
Forum: Christian Chit-chat
Topic: Rejection :(
Replies: 70
Views: 41540

Re: Rejection :(

Nicki, you clearly have romantic ideas about this fellow - but yet you're still married. Pursuing ANY kind of romantic notions while you are married is completely wrong! Period. Meanwhile, have you gone into CHRISTIAN counseling with your husband? Is he a Christian? Well, I can't help the way I fee...
by Nicki
Mon Sep 23, 2019 6:57 am
Forum: Christian Chit-chat
Topic: Rejection :(
Replies: 70
Views: 41540

Re: Rejection :(

I have found that CLOSE friendships with the opposite sex is nearly impossible. And I used to have such friendships. But over time, I realized that someone always gets the wrong idea - even with the best intentions that one's intentions are merely platonic and innocent. And it might be one's spouse...